There’s this myth that fat people are fat because we are holding onto some greater emotional problem. Our culture sees fat as a manifestation of a pathology of self harm and self loathing. But THAT’S. NOT. TRUE.
Self love will not inevitably lead to weight loss. Believing that you’re fat because you don’t love yourself ‘enough’ or the ‘right’ way is harmful and false thinking.
i’ve worked out every day this week except today and i love seeing my muscles already kinda grow and feeling stronger, but it really fucking sucks that every time i look up an exercise to see what the proper form is, the way that it’s talked about is like…”this will really help you tone your butt for those short shorts!” or “tone those arms to look good in a tank top!” instead of talking about how strong we’ll be when we do the exercises, how much we’ll be able to carry and how far we’ll be able to run and how much stamina we’ll have for any activity
and it’s EVERY exercise i’ve looked up! i looked for one to strengthen my lower back because it was hard to tone my arms with such a weak back, and the woman showing the workout was like “this back workout will improve your posture and you’ll be able to show off your shape beter in a bikini!” a fucking back workout was still somehow tied into wearing a fucking bikini. fuck. it’s so toxic and i’m really grateful that i’ve found blogs that steer away from that kind of toxic thinking.
Notice how all these comments are gendered? These sorts of “tips” are almost always directed at women. Because, after all, the only reason why we’d want to exercise is to fix up our disgusting and embarrassing bodies! How lucky we are to learn that working out can make us look tolerable.
You’re right, it’s awful to say the least.